Appendix M — Testimonials And Case Histories: It Works!
Over many generations of bringing the Goulding System parenting approach to the world, the author, Joane Goulding, has assisted families around the globe to develop emotional intelligence and self-confidence, and to raise emotionally resilient children.
The Goulding System offers a simple, substance-free, self-help solution for families. The System is a safe, ethical and non-intrusive technique that parents can apply in the safety and comfort of their own home. The Certified Parent Coaches case histories and parents feedback identified below are just some of the many specific issues the Goulding System assists.
Evidence-based research indicates that the System has made a significant difference to a range of issues including autism-spectrum behaviours, bedwetting, temper tantrums, bullying, ODD and OCD, sibling rivalry, nail biting, fears, anxieties, sleeping, education, toileting, selective mutism, school refusal speech disorders and issues relating to eating habits. All of these respond positively to the Goulding System.
The following testimonials are presented verbatim aside from spelling or grammatical corrections necessary for clarity and removal of names for anonymity.
Selective Mutism: A Pilot Study
Feedback received indicates the recent research conducted by Heinrich Heine University in Dusseldorf, highlights the potential of the Goulding System in treating Selective Mutism (SM). Selective Mutism has been described as an emotional disorder often addressed through extensive cognitive-behavioural therapy. A 2023 pilot study, involving approximately 20 children aged 2 to 7 years, demonstrated significant improvements, including reduced selective-mutism symptoms and enhanced social behaviours.
The study’s findings emphasise the unique mechanism of the Goulding System that is presented during the sleeping cycle. By accessing the Reticular Activating System (R.A.S.), which remains active even during sleep, the System bypasses conscious critical analysis, allowing the absorption of positive suggestions. This aligns with evidence-based research validating the brains receptivity to suggestions during sleep.
The pilot study’s success suggests that the Goulding System could serve as an effective complementary approach to treating selective mutism in children. Further research is likely to solidify these promising initial results.
Publication of the pilot study to be released soon. You can read more in Appendix B — Developing Research, Emerging Studies & Ongoing Investigations
Case History: The Story of Georgie.
Years ago, a young child called Georgie had a severe accident: she fell off her bike and, although wearing a helmet, damaged her skull. She was flown to Brisbane Hospital and transferred to the ICU, unconscious and not expected to recover. Her parents were advised that the damage was very extensive and were told to say their farewells. Children, however, can sometimes surprise us with their resilience, even in critical situations.
Both parents were aware of how the Goulding System worked, having undertaken the System with their daughter for a couple of years, so they decided to present suggestions of healing 24/7. They knew that Georgie’s subconscious mind, could still hear even while unconscious; they knew that hearing was the last sense to leave the body and while there was life, there was hearing.
Both parents continued presenting the Specific Suggestions of healing 24/7, advising that IT had the knowledge to action healing. During this time, they requested all nursing staff and doctors not to speak about the damage to the brain, the prognosis or potential of recovery within Georgies hearing. The medical staff didn’t understand the directions and requests of the parents but complied.
Georgie’s parents had such a deep awareness and understanding of the power of suggestion and the subconscious mind that they trusted its power even in such a critical situation. They believed in the capacity of the mind to influence the body’s healing process when given direction. By insisting that no negative or discouraging statements be made within Georgie’s hearing, they aimed to create an environment that was completely free from doubt or negativity and focused solely on recovery. This approach was consistent with the principles of the Goulding System, where positive, repeated suggestions are used to instruct the mind, seen as a computer, that IT has the knowledge to direct and to take action towards healing or improvement. Despite the scepticism or lack of understanding from medical staff, their compliance was crucial in maintaining this controlled, suggestion-based environment.
Initially the parents were told the brain damage was extensive and there was little hope of recovery. When Georgie regained consciousness, they were advised that she wouldn’t be able to speak or function physically. When Georgie did begin to speak and function, the prognosis changed again and the parents were advised that there was little hope of Georgie becoming well enough to manage her life independently. In spite of all these medical warnings, the healing suggestions were continued and Georgie gradually gained full health. This child, now an adult, is married with twins and works.
Georgie’s recovery is a remarkable testament to the power of positive suggestion and belief in the minds ability to heal. The continuous reinforcement of healing suggestions, combined with the parents unwavering faith in the System, created an environment that supported her recovery against all odds from a critical condition to a fulfilling life as a lecturer with a family.
Suggestions presented to our children stay with them for life.
Case History Feedback: Presented by a Professional Psychotherapist.
With a background in Social and Clinical Psychology, and as a Certified Master Hypnotherapist, I have spent more than two decades focusing on working with clients of all ages dealing with challenges such as trauma, anxiety, and other forms of neurodivergence. My experience has been in working with diverse populations such as adults and children suffering from the effects of abuse, Pre and Kindergarten age children, teens in after- school programs and group homes, parents in training programs, people dealing with chronic pain and addiction, and burned-out caregivers.
Working with many distraught parents through the years who were searching for an answer to help support their children and affect positive change in their households, I was driven by a heartfelt desire to contribute to a solution. This journey led me to discover the Goulding System, which is a wonderful, safe, effective, and non-invasive process that aids parents in building the essential foundation of unconditional love, self-esteem, and emotional resilience for their children.
Addressing a wide spectrum of issues that my clients were experiencing with their children, including behavioural issues such as tantrums, separation anxiety, sleep disturbances, potty training challenges and sibling rivalry, and developmental challenges such as Autism and ADHD; the System is grounded in the science of how the brain functions and its vast ability to change, called Neuroplasticity. The Goulding System facilitates the creation of new neural pathways, circumventing old negative behaviours and beliefs, thereby allowing for the release of fear, anxiety, and trauma. The resulting deepening bond from the System between parents and children contributes to a happier home life for the entire family.
Strong self-esteem, secure attachment, and emotional resilience can significantly impact success, both emotionally and academically, during all stages of childhood and adolescence. Providing children with these emotional tools is an investment with lifelong benefits that will have a positive effect on future generations.
Since I have begun working with families using the Goulding System, I have seen incredible positive results for not only the children, but for their parents as well. Speaking messages of positive self-esteem and unconditional love and acceptance into their children aids in their children’s positive behavioural and emotional changes and builds their emotional strength and resilience, and also helps parents to learn how to better communicate with their children, reduces their anxiety and stress levels, creates a calmer environment in the home, and strengthens the familial bonds.
I highly recommend this System to anyone looking to create positive change in their own family, as well as in the lives of families they work with.
Case History Feedback: Bullying, Sibling Rivalry, Education:
I was introduced to the Goulding sleep-talk System at the beginning of this year after I mentioned to my Goulding Parent Coach about the constant fighting between my 2 oldest children. I had never heard of the System prior to this but was instantly intrigued as I have always believed in the power of words. On top of the fighting and bullying of his sibling, we had also been experiencing other unpleasant behaviour from my oldest son such as disrespectful and moody behaviour, attitude and complete disinterest and lack of motivation with school.
My Parent Coach was knowledgeable and informative when she first introduced me to the System, the technique and the procedure. I was impressed with how simple the process seemed! I did feel a little awkward in the beginning, but found it became more natural within a couple of weeks.
I began to notice behavioural changes with my oldest son quite quickly within the first few weeks, and honestly thought that maybe it was just a coincidence. The thing that really convinced me that the System was working and was making a difference, was when we went away on a family holiday for a few days over Easter. We were all sleeping in one room so I decided to give the System routine a break while we were away as I felt I couldn’t implement it properly there. Even though we were doing fun activities for the kids my oldest sons attitude became particularly grotty all of a sudden! Once we were home and I started implementing the routine again his attitude and behaviours once again improved! I found it quite surprising.
I have found that over time his attitude has improved even more. He has become more agreeable, co-operative, respectful, more pro- active and less argumentative with household chores. He has also become more motivated with a better attitude towards school and work. For such a quick and simple routine that anyone can easily implement I think that the benefits of sleep-talk are fantastic and definitely worthwhile.
2023 Parent, Queensland.
Case History Feedback: Mental Health, Eating, School, Fear:
The Goulding sleep-talk System has been a huge catalyst for change for A and wonderful feedback from mum and dad has been received: A is a completely different boy to when we started working with you, his mum explained when we recently spoke.
The final Mind Profile questionnaire was wonderful to see, and the results were reinforced during our conversation. A is now happy at school and the first to be ready for school each day. He has adopted a new habit of cold showers every morning and I have had a recent text message to let me know this is still continuing. He is going to the gym several times a week, has made a new set of close friends and loving his time at football.
He is continuing to eat well and has become a healthy eater. Mum delighted in the fact that his tendency to comfort eat with chocolate has been replaced with a new desire to make smoothies and eat pumpkin seeds. A has also set a new screen saver for his alarm stating today is going to be a great day. Unfortunately, the bullying is continuing to some extent and this is being addressed by school. This perhaps makes it even more remarkable that A is able to stay resilient and upbeat despite the difficulties he continues to experience. Mum and dad are convinced the Goulding sleep-talk System has been the catalyst for much change. It has been an exciting and rewarding journey for us all.
2022 Certified Parent Coach UK.
Case History Feedback: Sensory Processing, ADHD, Dysgraphia, Sleep Issues, Anxiety:
Joane is a wealth of knowledge and is extremely caring and supportive. I cannot thank her enough for her work and can’t wait to see how this journey continues to unfold. I have become very aware to discuss any medical or negative conversations about my child out of his hearing. Everything goes into the computer negative and positive!
- 8yr old son has become more even tempered and happier in himself. The good days far outweigh the bad. He isn’t so controlling and grumpy.
- School refusal is lessening.
- My son is becoming a capable advocate for himself with his learning needs and quirks.
- We have gone from using Melatonin every night to sparingly.
- He is continuing a strengthened bond with me who had some connection issues with him in early years due to PND.
- He is more affectionate and calmer. We are still working on negative self-image (from learning challenges at school) but can feel this shift starting.
- A cheeky fun sense of humour is emerging.
- Adding additional behaviour modification: Choices and Consequences:
- My son was very out of control with his world and tried to control his world so much it affected our family environment dramatically.
- Applying choices and consequences has gradually eased the power battles and led to a much more balanced family dynamic.
- Explosive behaviour is less.
- C&C are the only choices and this is becoming known for my son, so it is lessening the arguments because he is feeling he is the one making the final decision.
- C&C has given me insight to some self-reflection and personal growth.
- I don’t feel like my life is a constant negotiation 24/7 with my child.
- The wording is very important with C&C, it took me awhile to get right, and I am so thankful for the support of Joane who gave me the skills and precise wording for results.
- The wording is important; it comes much more natural to me through the coaching and support of Joane.
Goulding System: Benefits
- It is a longer process with Foundation work.
- Spikes of getting worse before getting better, however totally worth it.
- It sometimes is a process of one step forward two steps back.
- Have no time limits on the process, it unfolds when it does.
You need patience.
- Support is crucial for a reminder of sometimes small wins is big wins, and how they all add up to massive gains in the long-term.
- I have noticed when I really put a lot of love and positive energy in my voice when conducting the System; it is like it sinks in more.
- We have more noticeable changes the next day or a leap.
2022 – Parent Qld
Case History Feedback: Changing Family Dynamics:
Dear Joane, that day I got tears in my eyes by getting the response from my son in just a few days of me doing the System every night. It gave me confidence that if this System is done diligently by heart, it can change the dynamics of the family and will bring the overall well-being.
You have given the world this System and the best of you. You are not only my teacher, Guru, indeed an Earth Angel. Your light will always shine upon us and the families you have impacted with your creation of the Goulding System.
Hope to connect with you to hear your inspiring voice someday. It will be a blessing. You take care and be rest assured that you have empowered us with the Goulding System and we will carry this light to empower others in need. I join my hands to say, thank you and I love you, Joane. You are an inspiration and will always be, not only as a Mentor but as a strong woman, who gave me the belief that no matter what in life, single mothers can thrive and I will thrive. With lots of love and gratitude.
2022 Certified Parent Coach, Singapore.
Case History Feedback: Life Changing Results.
Thanks to you and the Goulding System I can now take my son on holidays with my mum and I no longer have awful daily phone calls from the school. I’ve had life changing results with my clients, also especially a little 11-year-old Malaysian boy who is Autistic, had selective mutism and speech difficulties. He can now speak, sleep, is more affectionate and can now hug his dad and uncle for the first time and isn’t afraid to go outside. He is attending class happily and has made beautiful progress at school. Thank you this is the most rewarding work.
2022 Certified Parent Coach, Australia